05 Sep 2019

BY: Anna Keyter

Acceptance Commitment Therapy / Happiness / Positive Psychology / Telephone Counselling

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Positive Psychology – choose happiness

Article by Sara Taveira. Sara uses telephone counselling or Zoom counselling to help you work through your difficulties. Would you like to learn more about Sara? Then follow this link. 

Positive psychology – choose happiness

We all want to find happiness, to smile and feel good about ourselves and our lives. This pursuit of happiness is intrinsic to human nature. Several self-report studies reveal that people rated happiness as more important than having meaning in life and being financially comfortable.

It would be great to experience lots of happy moments all the time. However, the belief in a constant state of happiness is not true. Happiness can be hard work and usually implies accepting a new way of reacting to discomforts. Being happy involves being in the moment, here and now, which entails a state of mind, and not a continuous feeling.

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20 Jul 2019

BY: Anna Keyter

Introversion / Shyness / Social phobia / Telephone Counselling

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Telephone Counselling working with introversion, social phobia and shyness

This article, Telephone Counselling working with introversion, social phobia and shyness was written by Sara Taveira.

Am I introverted, socially phobic or just shy?

This article deals with telephone counselling working with introversion, social phobia and shyness. These concepts are often interpreted as semantics and can lead to confusion.

Generally, social phobia, shyness and introversion are viewed in the same light. In this article, I will explain the difference between each concept and what they have in common.

Introversion

Introversion is a personality trait. Introverted people have a higher interest in their own internal world, their thoughts and feelings, and are usually happy to spend time alone. Actually, most introverts need alone time as a self-care tool as much as extroverts need social time to recharge their batteries.

Social Phobia

In contrast, social phobia is a mental health disorder based on a perceived irrational and exaggerated fear in social situations. A person suffering from social phobia is usually interested in social situations. However, their fears of being judged by others or embarrassing themselves lead them to avoid social interactions and facing them with significant distress.

People experiencing social phobia, are usually overly conscious people, perfectionist, and have constant feelings of being “put on the spot” in social interactions. This distress impacts several areas of their lives. It is not hard to imagine that someone struggling with social phobia will have extreme difficulties initiating and/or maintaining relationships, which contribute to social isolated.

Being isolated socially can lead to other mood disorders and may affect future goals. How? Well, think about choosing a university degree or a professional career pathway. If I am social phobic, will I choose a career involving primarily social interactions like public relations, politics, management, etc.? Probably not. Social phobia can vary in intensity and forms: some people only struggle with social situations (being the focus of attention) – performance type – while others will struggle simply with social interaction in groups. Severe forms of social phobia may have both forms present.

Children’s experiences of social phobia

Children’s presentation of social phobia may vary according to their different developmental stages. Due to developmentally appropriate diminished self-awareness, young children usually can only describe several physical symptoms, are extremely clingy in social situations, refuse to participate in social or school activities and do not tend to speak when meeting new people.

Middle school-age children, as they become more self-aware, can say things like “I expect bad things to happen” or “others are looking at me while I am eating” or “others are saying bad things about me”.

Teenagers experiencing social phobia, are usually very hard on themselves and self-critic, thus, will often avoid eye contact, or struggle at an academic level (which can lead to school truancy). They can have difficulty dating and in some cases start at-risk type of behaviours, such as alcohol and drugs experimentation as a coping mechanism for their anxiety.

Shyness

Shyness includes a number of uncomfortable feelings such as awkwardness, stress and worry when interacting with unfamiliar people. Shyness can be present when someone experiences introversion and social phobia.

Since I am a food lover, let me explain it this way: Introversion and social phobia are the two bread slices of a sandwich and shyness can be considered the cheese that connects the slices. Shyness often, but not always, leads to social phobia. Similarly, an introvert may be shy when facing unfamiliar social situations but it does not necessarily mean that he/she suffers from social phobia.

Conclusion

Telephone Counselling working with introversion, social phobia and shyness is possible. Whether you are an adult with a constant feeling of being “put on the spot”, or have a child who displays some of the above symptoms, the more you avoid it, the worse it gets!

Start today by taking the driver’s seat when it comes to your social phobia so that you can learn to park it somewhere and never look back! Talk to us, we can join you in these driving lessons.

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19 Apr 2018

BY: Anna Keyter

Assessment / Counselling / Couple Counselling / Online Counselling / Online Counsellor / Online therapist / Online Therapy / Treatment

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Therapeutic Relationship Online Therapist
Factors that promote or hinder the therapeutic relationship | Online Therapist:

There are endless factors that could affect the therapeutic relationship. Hill (2014) stresses the importance of understanding one’s own motives for becoming a counsellor and monitoring them. Personal therapy contributes to a counsellor’s own growth and self-understanding which is an important aspect when assisting clients. For instance, issues that a client may raise may stir up helper personal issues. The therapist needs to be able to bracket uncomfortable reactions and attend to the client’s issues in order to promote constructive therapeutic interactions. Furthermore, counsellor and client variables should be considered, these include personalities, belief systems and demographics that could affect the helping relationship. Sometimes people get along, and other times it is a mismatch. As a therapist, it is crucial to understanding your own biases, assumptions and worldview to be open to the norms, values and cultural heritage of helpees (Sue & Sue, 2007).

Therapist’s Intentions

A helper’s intentions are based on everything s/he knows about the client at a particular moment. These motives are not always apparent to the counsellor or client at the time because they discover different layers of feelings, thoughts and emotions as they go on (Hill, 2014).  Cozolino (2004) stresses the importance of focusing on exploring the client’s experiences in the moment. If the counsellor is not with the client moment-by-moment, s/he won’t be able to formulate intentions based on the current situation (Hill, 2014). Therapists should be present to assess the client’s information and decide on specific skills.

Counsellor Skills

Clients react by reevaluating their needs, goals and decisions based on the counsellor’s intervention. Brew and Kottler (2016) are of the opinion that clients believe counsellors have the power to assist them but first, it is important to gain confidence in their counselling skills. That being said, Cozolino ( 2004) highlights the importance of being good enough as a therapist. He states that even though environments are not perfect, it could still be adequate when there exists a good therapeutic relationship. The information gained from the client should be based on the therapist’s skills.  These skills include reflecting on feelings, facilitating self-disclosure and asking open-ended questions. A professional attitude and having the right manner when probing is also conducive to the intervention process (Hill, 2014).

In Conclusion

Self-understanding contributes to a counsellor’s ability to listen to the thoughts and feelings of their clients in a nonjudgmental way (Rogers, 1961).  A professional therapeutic relationship is all about listening empathically and supporting clients through difficult times.  Counsellors facilitate a different perspective on problems and assist clients to take action to improve their lives (Hill, 2014). In order to help clients make sense of ambiguity and confusing stimuli, therapists assist in defining goals. Helpers further assess and reevaluate the client’s goals as a reaction to interventions. The helping relationship is thus an interaction between the helper’s intentions and the client’s reactions. A counsellor’s own awareness guides the selection of effective interventions. By paying attention to the client’s feelings the therapist can develop an appropriate treatment plan.

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References

Brew, L. & Kottler, J.A. (2016). Applied Helping Skills: Transforming Lives (2nd ed). Los Angeles: Sage.
Cozolino, L. (2004). The making of a therapist. New York, USA: W.W. Norton & Company.
Hill, C. E. (2014). Helping skills: Facilitating exploration, insight, and action (4th ed.). Washington, DC: American Psychological Association.
Sue, D. W., & Sue, D. (2003). Counseling the culturally diverse: Theory and practice (4th ed.). New York: Wiley.
Rogers, C. (1961). On becoming a person. London, United Kingdom: Constable Publishers. Available online library (2004 ed)

02 Jan 2018

BY: Anna Keyter

Online Counselling / Online Therapy / Treatment

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Online Counselling in New Zealand

Online counselling in New Zealand is becoming commonplace.  Web therapy, phone therapy, text therapy or online therapy is a way to interact with your counsellor using a website, phone or mobile app as a therapeutic tool. This post provides information on online counselling in New Zealand.

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02 Oct 2017

BY: Anna Keyter

Featured / Online Counselling / Online Therapy / Treatment

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Best Online Therapy

There are benefits for both online and in-office therapy, keeping in mind the two are not mutually exclusive.  Some people are adamant that in-office therapy should not be replaced but complement online sessions.  If you are comfortable with combining online and traditional counselling, then continue with in-person therapy alongside online therapy.

Questions to ask: Who would provide the best online therapy for you?  How do you choose between available online solutions?

In this post, I will provide you with a checklist to select a reputable online counsellor.  Once you have decided that online therapy is the way to go, you would be able to make an informed decision about selecting an online counsellor.

Best Online Therapy checklist
  • The American Psychological Association (APA) suggests that you have an initial face to face meeting before committing to therapy
  • Get information on potential counsellors on social media platforms such as LinkedIn or Facebook
  • Sometimes a Google search will provide information such as credentials and qualifications
  • It is important that you find a person who will provide a tailored service best suited to your specific needs in terms of interventions and skills
Checklist: Adapted from the American Psychological Association:
  • Decide if online therapy the right tool for you
  • Check that your therapist is registered with the Psychologist board, Psychotherapy board or the New Zealand Association of Counsellors? Remember, licensing protects you.
  • Are you using online apps? Is the site or app secure? Will the information I provide remain confidential? Psychotherapy works in part because psychologists ensure that clients have a safe, private space to share deeply personal and sometimes difficult stories, thoughts or emotions.

 

In conclusion

For your own peace of mind, do a Google search on your potential provider and check online ratings.  You can also view potential online counsellor profiles on platforms such as Facebook, LinkedIn or Google+

 

If you want to find out more about Online Therapy, please call us 098880779 or email us info@onlinetherapy.co.nz.
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