27 Apr 2020

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Marriage Counselling / Online Counsellor / Online Therapy / Online Therapy Clinical Psychologist / Relationship Counselling

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Of Sound Mind to Marry

Do you know if you are of sound mind to marry?

Going through the motions of getting married isn’t nearly as challenging as getting to know each other on a deeper level before the ceremony, says Psychologist Jim Bierman. His book raises all the controversial, yet crucial issues for pre-weds. He guides engaged couples through an enlightening process of self-examination and us-examination, helping them gain a greater understanding of their partner, of the person they are becoming as part of a couple, and of the marriage, they are about to create.

Who will benefit from this book?

Written for pre-weds, their families, close friends, and the professionals who counsel them, this thought-provoking text explores thinking about-and talking about-delicate issues from love, communication, friendship, and sex, to in-law relations, money matters and prenuptial agreements, and the ways in which children will change a relationship. When couples meet the challenge of deeply understanding each other and what they expect out of marriage, their chances of enjoying a satisfied, intimate, and stable married life are greatly enhanced. By the end of this book, pre-weds will have grown from the altered state of being in love to being of sound mind to marry, says Bierman.

Talking about the realities of becoming a husband or wife


Of Sound Mind to Marry by Jim Bierman

One of the last things couples planning a wedding usually want to do is talk about the realities of becoming husband and wife. Most would rather discuss wedding cake flavors and honeymoon plans than their views on children and finances, their personal insecurities and potential struggles, says Bierman, adding that even counselors and clergy usually do not tread into the area of these issues that can be deep, upsetting, and disagreement-inspiring. But better that before marriage than afterwards.

What you can expect from this book

This book raises all the controversial yet crucial issues for pre-weds. And that will help couples wed with far more understanding of themselves and each other, with more foresight and sound thinking, so that they’ll not only be thrilled to be marrying the one they have chosen, but they’ll know that their decision is a wise one.

Followed by peer review:

“All couples prepare for their wedding but few for their marriage. For those couples who want to ensure their marriage endures, this book is an excellent and essential guide. I recommend it without reservation.” (Harville Hendrix, Ph. D. author, Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples)

Jim Bierman’s book is packed with enlightening and practical advice for any couple planning for marriage. He shows them how to deal directly with every important aspect of their relationship ahead of time and in a sensitive, loving way. I highly recommend it both to anyone planning to be married and to professionals who work with couples.” (Linda Adams President and CEO, Gordon Training International)

“Of Sound Mind to Marry offers a well-informed overview of the journey into marriage. Not just another book filled with advice, Bierman’s understanding of the psychological nuances of premarital and marriage relationships is presented in a clear and useful format. Add this one to your premarital reading list. A fresh treatment of the journey into marriage; Of Sound Mind to Marry is a sophisticated psychological look at forming a life-long relationship. Bierman is not afraid to tackle the difficult topics such as prenuptial agreements and deciding not to marry.” (Peter J. Larson, Ph.D. LP Vice President, Life Innovations, Inc.)

And full review by Richard Geller, Founder of CapitalCounselors.com and Clients4Therapists.com, 5.0 out of 5 stars The best manual for a couple hinking of getting married Reviewed in the United States on January 8, 2008 “I haven’t seen anything quite like this before. In my work I have several hundred clients, most of whom do some pre-marital counseling. If couples just read this book, they wouldn’t need anything else. That’s how good the book is. A great deal of thought that someone should give to getting married is really in asking the right questions. And those questions are clearly spelled out.” So much of life should come with an owner’s manual, but doesn’t.

Jim’s book comes awfully close to being an owner’s manual for people who are thinking of marrying. I run a service that matches counselors and therapists with couples and individuals. So I was eager to read Jim’s book and hoping it would serve for many couples who may want to read rather than see someone, or want to supplement what their religious or secular counseling provides them. I haven’t seen anything quite like this before. In my work I have several hundred clients, most of whom do some pre-marital counseling. If couples just read this book, they wouldn’t need anything else. That’s how good the book is.

A great deal of thought that someone should give to getting married is really in asking the right questions. And those questions are clearly spelled out. The first few chapters talk about how we need to ask honest questions about how we feel about our partner — questions that are difficult to ask in the “altered state of being in love” as Jim puts it.

Then the book explores what most of us don’t know to ask and think about, with respect to children, and in-laws and a host of other issues that often cause problems in a marriage because we don’t expect them. The last part talks about specific issues and methods. This is worth the price of the book because a lot of problems can be avoided by good communication — and Jim distils wisdom of how to communicate in easy clear language and exercises that couples can learn.

I don’t expect anything will truly replace in-person counseling, but Jim’s book is almost as good. Buy a copy today for yourself or for a friend or family member who is going to get married.

You can order the book on Amazon by following this link.

Alternatively, you can get in contact with Jim to discuss ‘Of sound mind to marry’ by completing the form below.

25 Apr 2020

BY: Online Therapy

Online Clinical Psychologist / Online Text Therapy / Online Therapy / WhatsApp Clinical Counselling / WhatsApp Counselling / WhatsApp Therapy

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3 Reasons Why WhatsApp Counselling is the Life-Changing Treatment You Need

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Have you heard of Online WhatsApp Therapy?

If you haven’t, let us share with you the facts of why this might just be the future of mental healthcare. 

(1) Online Therapy is incredibly convenient.

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According to a 2015 study, WhatsApp is the most popular instant messaging app, even more widely used than Facebook. It allotted for 19.83% or 32.11 minutes spent daily by smartphone users.

Not only is it a convenient tool for patients, but remarkably, there’s also a growing trend of clinicians all over the world utilizing the app. Kim Thomas, a UK-based journalist, states that about 98% of health professionals in the UK have a smartphone, with a third using WhatsApp.

(2) Online WhatsApp Therapy ensures privacy.

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A 2016 study indicated that WhatsApp maintained patient privacy while improving healthcare and monitoring. The Telehealth and e-Health journal supports this and also points out that in addition to ensuring that the privacy of the clients is preserved, it’s less time-consuming compared to the traditional face-to-face method.

(3) Online Text Therapy truly works.

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According to a 2019 research published in the BMC Public Health journal, WhatsApp served as a successful intervention for chronically ill patients who wanted to quit smoking.

The app was used to conduct follow-ups, provide support and counselling, give quality health advice, share information and help evaluate unhealthy thinking patterns among the patients. Notably, frequent and non-judgmental communication was a huge factor that contributed to the effectiveness of WhatsApp Clinical Counselling.

Want to try WhatsApp Counselling?

Jim Bierman is the latest addition to our dedicated team of mental health experts. He is an online clinical psychologist that specializes in clinical work. Mostly, he links to patients online using Zoom and Skype platforms, but he also uses WhatsApp Counselling as a medium to connect with people.

To contact and know more about Jim, click here.

You can also complete the form below and Jim will get back to you.

13 Apr 2020

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Clinical Psychologist / Clinical Psychology / In-office counselling / Online Clinical Psychologist / Online therapist / Online Therapy

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Jim Bierman, the latest addition to our Online Clinical Psychologist team

We are pleased to introduce Jim Bierman, the latest addition to our Online Clinical Psychologist team. Jim is an independent licensed clinical psychologist (Registered with the New Zealand Psychologist Board) joining our group of therapists. Below is my interview with Jim, so you can get to know him better.

How did you get into Clinical Psychology?

By a circuitous path which, for psychology, gave me life experience that forever informs me of my patients’ condition, perception, and suffering. Originally a biologist, my time in the field made clear to me that the success of all endeavours depends on the relationships within the team.  Relationships are the key. There is no other field or profession that allows you to understand relationships and confront dysfunction than in psychology. In practising psychology, I never take for granted the privilege and permission my patients grant me to intervene in this most personal part of their lives.

Where did you do your training and how did you register at the New Zealand Psychologist board?

California Graduate Institute in Los Angeles, where I studied clinical psychology with an emphasis in psychoanalysis. Then the University of Washington School of Medicine, Parent Evaluation Training Program, where I trained in report writing in Family Court for High Conflict child custody cases. I registered in NZ seven years ago when I took a position in the Southern District DHB, children’s outpatient clinic.


What work did you do in NZ but also internationally?

20+ years in community mental health, 25 years in private practice.  Primarily outpatient but also 3 years supervising an inpatient unit.


What key functions will you bring to Online Therapy?

To listen, reflect, interpret, and further the best interest of my patient.


Why were you brought on board and what is your specialist areas?

Starting with psychoanalysis and primitive mental states, I work with individuals across the age range, couples at all stages of their relationship (see my book, ‘Of Sound Mind to Marry’, and families.  I am located in Auckland, New Zealand and am available to face to face sessions, government lockdown permitting.


What do you enjoy doing in your spare time?

Tai Chi Chuan, yoga, hiking, music, appreciating the beautiful place we live in.

To contact Jim Bierman, the latest addition to our Online Clinical Psychologist team, feel free to complete the form below.

12 Apr 2020

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Clinical Psychologist / Clinical Psychology / Cognitive Behaviour Therapy / Online CBT / Online Clinical Psychologist / Online Cognitive Behaviour Therapy / Online therapist / Online Therapy

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Why Online Clinical Psychologists Using Cognitive Behaviour Therapy are Incredibly Effective

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Are you looking to try out online Cognitive Behavioural Therapy?

If you’re unsure and need some facts to help you, we have compiled 3 reasons why online CBT might just be what you need to get your life back on track.

1.    Cognitive Behavioural Therapy is Heavily Backed by Science.

The American Psychological Association indicates that compared to other forms of therapy, there is abundant scientific evidence that backs up the effectiveness of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT).

Because of this, it is different and even considered more effective than other therapies.

It also treats a vast array of mental illness that includes:

  • Anxiety disorders,
  • Eating disorders
  • Depression,
  • Alcohol and drug misuse,
  • Marital problems,

As stated by UK’s National Health Services it can also provide help people suffering from:

  • Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
  • Phobias
  • Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)
  • Panic Disorder
  • Schizophrenia,
  • Borderline Personality Disorder
  • Psychosis
  • Bipolar Disorder
  • Sleep Problems
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS)
  • Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS)

NHS UK also emphasized that CBT helps you sort through the interplay of your emotions, bodily sensations and behaviours.

It allows you to break through from the cycle of repeated actions, negative thought patterns and unhealthy coping mechanisms.

2.    Online CBT is a Proven Beneficial Treatment.

According to a 2011 study, Online Cognitive Behaviour Therapy is a useful alternative to face-to-face CBT sessions.

In fact, this research which began in 1996, became the basis for the Dutch government. And, since 2005, the costs of online CBT were refunded through their country’s public health insurance.

3.    Online CBT Psychologists Have a Lasting Effect on Wellbeing

In a 2016 article published in the Internet Interventions journal, a total of 42 patients shared how the behaviours of their online clinical psychologists contributed to the improvement of their wellbeing.

  • Affirmation – This particular behaviour of online psychologists helped the patients long after the treatment was over. Its positive effect on depressive symptoms was shown to last even after two years.
  • Encouragement–  The effects of this can be seen right away. It emerged right after the patients have undergone the session/s.
  • Self-disclosure – Similar to affirmation, patients who were able to share their untold stories and vulnerabilities showed vast improvements in depressive symptoms even after some time has passed after the treatment.

Want to get in touch with a Clinical Psychologist who can help you with CBT? Contact below.

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